Your Body Checks In

A few updates:

I know you had a bunion removed on your right big toe around seven years ago. The new achy knob that is growing there reflects my opinion of the six pairs of dressy new shoes you have bought since.

The moles appearing every month on your back are part of my ongoing art project to make the shape of a pony.

Sigmund Freud once said, "The ego is ultimately derived from bodily sensations, chiefly from those springing from the surface of the body." Discuss with your friends over lunch and report back with their comments.

It was embarrassing to both of us a month ago when you used the Dyson dryer in the Yorkdale Shopping Mall washroom, noticed the skin on your hands no longer stayed in place but rippled upwards like a flowing veiny epidermal stream, and told everyone around about it including your 26-year-old daughter. 

I have a story to tell you about that lump on your chest. It's called a 'Bible cyst.' I know the doctor told you it was a lump of intransigent fat but my version is less hurtful and more interesting. It was called a Bible cyst because in the old days a doctor making house calls would take a Bible from the family bookshelf and thwack it on the patient's chest to make the cyst disappear. Neat, eh? If you can't find a Bible in the house use the atlas that still has East Germany and Czechoslovakia in it.

Baskets

There is nothing that cannot be solved by a basket. Preferably the wicker ones, so it looks like a woman is both organized and makes her own jam. 

The mittens and gloves go in a basket that goes in a drawer. My mittens and gloves, because the other three members of the household put theirs on the kitchen table or on the radiator when they're wet from snow and rain, or they just hang out the pockets of their jackets like wine-box bladders. 

Now that fall is approaching we're going to discover the bulbs that were supposed to last for 20,000 years or something have burned out. BUT I have a basket of bulbs and florescents and little sparky halogens under the pantry sink. I bought extras last year so we'd be ready, if the apocalypse is coming, but some of them are dead just from waiting in the dark. Most of the time I forget they're there and buy new ones from the store, which I put in the same basket until it overflows and I have to throw out the old ones.

Baskets are metaphor of course. I thought at the beginning of this essay they were a metaphor for organization. It turns out they're a metaphor for spillage, foreboding and what doesn't fit. I don't make jam either, but I have clipped out the recipe from the paper. Peach, I think.

Ten Minutes with Andy

So welcome back, to Day Five of the Balance pack. For now, get comfortable, in the usual way. And let’s begin with some deep breaths. In through the nose, out through the mouth.

Geoffrey will be downstairs any minute. I can hear him. He's going to drop the newspapers on the floor again too.

Gently close your eyes, if you haven’t done so already. And as you continue to focus on the breath, scan down through the body, not resting anywhere, noting any physical or emotional changes.

12,722 steps yesterday. My knees never hurt when Andy asks about them, but they’re hot clamps on the stairs. 

And now, return to the breath. Just breathe as you would normally. And for a moment, remember why you’re doing this, how this might impact your relationships. Think about who might benefit from you doing this.

Why should I? ‘Nice stracci, thanks.’ ‘Hey, the beet yogurt from Chobani? Thanks.’ If you bought the yogurt, Geoffrey, I’d thank you too.

Keep your mind focused on the breath as it moves through the body. If it wanders, that’s normal, just gently return it to the breath.

Andy has such big arms. He must work out every day.  Those blue shirts look like they’re going to burst. 

You can put your hand on your diaphragm, just above the stomach, to feel the air move in and out.

I wonder what his body says to him when he scans through it.

Feel the warm, liquid sunlight, the spaciousness, flowing down into the body, into your feet, your legs, your arms.

Okay.

Now, for the last few moments of the exercise, let your mind wander, let it go free, let it think whatever it wants.

Nope. Nothing. 

Remembering the quality of –

Warmth? Spaciousness? I bet spaciousness.

Spaciousness you feel. Try to carry that with you as you go about your day.

Andy never says to think of an ocean wave, but Jason Stephenson does, and he’s free on Youtube.

And as you become aware of the body, of the weight of the body, reflect for a moment on how good it is to take time out for yourself . . .

Damn straight.

And if you can, try to take a moment now and then throughout the day to reflect on this feeling, and to be in the present, even if it’s just for a moment.

Ellen at Aroma in half an hour. I’ve got a streak of five, and she’s only got three. 

And I’ll see you back here next time, for Day Six.

The ethics of news withdrawal

My family always subscribed to two newspapers: the Ottawa Citizen and the Globe and Mail. I started my own Globe subscription in my early twenties. In the last two decades my own family has subscribed to the Globe and the New York Times daily. It is inadvisable to interrupt us early in the morning until we have digested the day's news along with our cereal and coffee.

Everyone knows what happened in the United States election in 2016. At the time I tried, like most, to understand why it had happened. At first there was media interest in the voters who elected Trump, how they felt disaffected and ignored by the government purporting to represent them. Later there was stellar writing by the writer Ta-Nehisi Coates about underlying racism behind the American vote in his collection of essays We Were Eight Years in Power. What white people feared was never 'bad Negro government, but good Negro government,' Coates wrote--except he was quoting from W.E.B. Du Bois in 1895 about African-run communities in the U.S.

Too many newspapers and media have become cork boards upon which any random dart lands on a story about Donald Trump. Doug Ford's election as premier of Ontario is about Trump. Bill Clinton's and James' Patterson novel must be about Trump. #MeToo is about Trump. The World Cup of football is declared a relief from Trump; even his absence becomes a presence. Shoot darts at the same spot on a dartboard and eventually there's not enough cork for the darts to stick. 

Now I read the Globe for Canadian news. The New York Times front section I skim or avoid altogether with visceral apathy. My withdrawal embarrasses me. Decades ago when an acquaintance told us he never read the news I avoided him afterwards, convinced he was not worth talking to. Is that person now me?

Maybe not. Reporting the news is supposed to be who, what, where, when and why.  Commentary is the opinion of a writer explaining and giving an opinion about reported news. This week Trump visited Vladimir Putin in Russia; afterwards CNN anchor Anderson Cooper began his commentary by saying "You have been watching perhaps one of the most disgraceful performances by an American president at a summit in front of a Russian leader, certainly that I've ever seen," he said.

When the media starts providing content again, I'll pay it better attention.

A tale of two plantations

When we visited New Orleans in November of 2016 people often asked my sister and I where we came from. "Canada," I said. "Ah. Cold up there," was usually the response or "This must seem like summer to you." I explained how it was nearly as warm in parts of Canada as it was in New Orleans. People nodded while looking over my shoulder, not listening. Nobody talked about the U.S. federal election results.

We visited two plantations: the Whitney and the Randall. The Whitney is the only (and relatively new) museum in the United States that describes plantation life from the enslaved people's perspective with as many names, artifacts and stories as possible.

We saw enclosures where men and women were penned before they were sold.  On the windows of the 'big house' were bars intended to keep white owners safe from their slaves. We looked at a line of round table-sized rusted bowls from which the enslaved, including children, spooned hot sugar syrup from one to another as it was boiled down.

An hour further along the Mississippi we stayed at a converted plantation where the Randall family was one of the biggest sugar producers in the world. We stayed in little white cabins that surrounded the property; ours had flowered curtains and carved wooden headboards and petit-point china just like my grandmother's.

In the big house, called the mansion, guests were like us: white, slightly wrinkled and well-off. Two tables away at breakfast were a group of women in their 60s talking about their tour.

"I took a little walk--"

"It was so cold--"

"Turned the corner and it was all black."

(a chorus) Oh! Ohhh . . .

(a beat)

"Black on black, you know. I was so scared."

"The tour guide told you not to go there."

Our guide at the Randall mansion was a strapping white man named Luke who turned out to be a decent historian--he even knew where a slave burial ground lay far from us underneath the sugar cane fields. He often referred to history as 'it was what it was.'

"Imagine the year 1859," Luke said. "Nearly 170 years ago. Imagine what was going on for the plantation owners. They don't know for sure that war is coming, but they think it might. How does anyone know for sure a war is coming?

"What are they worried about?" he asked. "The Union boats are going up and down the river so they're worried about the Yankees. The slaves have heard how things are going and their owners fear they will revolt and kill them. They know their world is ending. What do they do?

"They consider moving, but where?

"They consider arming. What else? I'm just pickin' your brains here."

He also asked our tour what other plantations people had visited. No one mentioned the Whitney. No one else seemed to heard of it. Later that day my sister and I accidentally drove our rented car into a black neighbourhood in Placqueville--a similar experience can occur on some Canadian roads when you make a turn and realize you're on a First Nations reserve. No sidewalks. Houses with peeling paint. Junked cars in the front yard. People sit on their stoops and kids play basketball. I remembered the breakfast conversation I had overheard and wondered, as if I had been infected by a conversational virus, what would happen if our car broke down. Soon, though, we were back on the main streets deciding where to find a decent place for lunch.

On the highway back to New Orleans we passed a trailer with a sign on it that said GOD HAS MORE TRAGEDIES THAN GOVERNMENT HAS SOLUTIONS. In Louisiana, the week after Donald Trump's election, that seemed about right.